4 Effective Ways to Get Unstuck in Your Life
22 Jun 2015
I’m very fortunate to meet women all the time who are stuck. You may be asking, “Why is she fortunate?” and, “When is being stuck a reason to be grateful?” Well, let me explain. Being stuck, no matter how challenging, confusing, painful, or frustrating, is a wonderful opportunity to see what you could not see before. It’s an opportunity for growth. However, it can also feel overwhelming and give you even more reason to stay stuck.
I have found that no matter how stuck you are, there are four effective ways to move out of this circumstance. Truth be told, being stuck is a state of resignation or confusion; the key is to elevate your thoughts and vibration before you can move forward with action. My favorite four steps will help you alter your thoughts and raise your energy.
1. Make room for something different.
I always say if I want something different, I need to prepare for it even when I can’t see much further than my nose. If you want something different, it is essential to get organized. Place energy in your life of “knowing” you are on your way to somewhere new. You must prepare yourself and your living space for a new life. I have learned that our environment has a lot to do with our mental clarity and creativity. Make way physically for what you want in your life. For me, this looked like cleaning out old clothes and papers; so my space was clear with only what I needed. What does that look like for you?
2. Get clear on what you want.
What is your vision for your life? Take time to identify what you do want, not what you don’t want. The “how” in the beginning is not your concern. Write down your goals and intentions. Now, I know you may be asking how you can do this when a state of being stuck has grabbed a hold of you. The thing is, allowing your mind to think about and get excited about what you want, even if it is just a feeling, is imperative to eradicate the feelings of a mental straightjacket. It sounds too simple, but doing it daily for 10 minutes will remove that feeling of being stuck. It will allow room for creative possibilities.
3. Have a heart-to-heart with yourself.
How honest are you with yourself? Are you willing to do the work to change your life? Is the pain of your current circumstances and reality more painful than making a change? Are you expecting your circumstances to change without making any effort? When answering these questions, it’s important to be authentic and honest with yourself.
4. Find a consistent source of motivation to help push you to where you want to be.
I advise my clients to do an esteemable action step every day. Small, conscious, and consistent steps daily will build esteem to help us feel better about ourselves and do the things in life that lead us to do more and go forward. According to the author of Esteemable Acts, Francine Ward, doing one esteemable act a day will lead to more actions that move your life in the direction you want.
Using these tips, you can move yourself from inertia and frustration, to productivity and a sense of accomplishment.
Let us know your thoughts. What actions have you taken to get unstuck in your own life?
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